Chapter 15: “…And a funeral”

In his wedding speech, Nigel joked about a movie being made of his final years: ‘One wedding and a funeral’.

Just a few days after getting married, Nigel was admitted to St Luke’s Hospice in Plymouth. The care they provided was, in Nigel’s own words, incredible.

On the 10th July, Nigel passed away there, with Mandy at his bedside.

Nige was very organised about his affairs, and sent friends and family detailed requests for his funeral arrangements – who was doing what etc.

At the funeral – again at St Petroc’s church – family and friends cast a smile when they saw the brightly-coloured Piet Mondrian casket he requested.

We sang Jerusalem together once again.

Funeral at St Petroc’s Church, South Brent , Wellington Square TQ11 9AG

On Wednesday 1st August 2018 at 2pm

Nigel’s wish was that: ‘Gloominess is to be avoided, no black or dark colours are to be worn. Wear clothes that are most comfortable for you.’

Family flowers only.

Donations are for St Luke’s Church in Buckfastleigh to reflect Nigel’s gratitude and thanks for the pastoral care and support he received from Rev Tom Benson.

A collection box will be at the church or donations can be sent to Heart & Soul Funerals, 18 Dart Mill, Buckfastleigh, TQ11 0NF

There will be an opportunity during the service to share personal thoughts and stories.

On the 3rd August at midday, family and friends met in South Brent to scatter Nigel’s ashes in the river, at Nigel’s favourite spot. 

The flowers from Nigel’s coffin, at the garden at St. Lukes Hospice, where he stayed. Nigel loved the view from here, overlooking Plymouth Hoe.

Chapter 14: “A wedding”

On the 17th June, friends and family got the news that Nige would be marrying Mandy Hillier, one of his closest friends who had been with him from the start of his cancer journey.

Reverend Tom Benson conducted the service beautifully. And the weather was perfect.

Nigel had saved up his energy for the day. His health was deteriorating quite rapidly, but he was still bringing family and friends together and creating wonderful memories.

17 June 2018

You are warmly invited to celebrate the wedding of Mandy and Nigel

Tom Benson, St.Petroc’s sage and gentle vicar, will lead an Anglican liturgy to bless and celebrate  our commitment to each other in our beautiful medieval village church. It will be a very personal, informal ceremony and light on tradition.

We hope you will be able to join us on Sunday 1st July 2018, 3.30pm, at St.Petroc’s Church, South Brent to share in this celebration, and then afterwards at The Oak, Station Road, South Brent, for an informal buffet meal, and a few glasses of fizzy.

We know this is incredibly short notice but would be really grateful if you could reply by Thursday 21st  June,  whether you are able  to come, so we can finalise the arrangements.

You can reply  by email to Mandy or Nigel. 

We really hope you can join us and please come in something colourful, fun and fabulous!

With love

Mandy and Nigel

[Pics by Rosie Victoria Photography]

Nigel greeting wedding guests at St Petroc’s Church (South Brent, Devon)

Nigel and Mandy together

Nigel at the wedding reception at South Brent’s Royal Oak pub. His speech was a corker (text forthcoming)